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October 18, 2026 36:58 Cross Church Surprise
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· Would you stay faithful to your faith

· if everyone turned on you?

· Would you stay faithful to your faith

· if your family turned on you?

· Would you stay faithful to your faith

· if everyone you loved, everyone around you turned on you?

· Hey, if you got your Bibles,

· if you are new here, my name is Kyle Gallagher.

· I am the youth pastor here at Cross Church.

· If you got your Bibles, open up to Job 15.

· That's where we're gonna spend our time this morning.

· And if you don't have one, grab a friend, read with them,

· or grab a Bible right in front of you,

· right underneath that chair.

· We love diving into God's word.

· But as you guys are flipping there,

· I wanna give you guys some stats.

· I wanna show you some numbers this morning.

· A recent study was done on kids

· from the ages of 11 to 13.

· And this is what they found about this study.

· 50% live with both of their biological parents.

· 31% live with a single parent.

· 17% live in a blended family.

· 2% live in some other situation.

· Worldwide, only 7% of children

· live in a single parent homes.

· And here's the biggest one.

· They found that kids in the United States

· are more likely to live with a single parent

· than anywhere else in the world.

· Why does that matter?

· Why do I bring that up this morning?

· Because we are the leaders of the entire world

· that kids will grow up in a broken home.

· Kids will grow up.

· And this is the reality of living in a single parent house.

· Why does that matter?

· Why do I bring that up?

· Because we need to know as parents,

· as pastors, as grandparents, as faithful church members,

· we need to know the culture we are living in right now.

· This is not a future thing.

· This is the culture we live in today.

· And we need to actually acknowledge

· who is sitting next to us today.

· Who is sitting in the chair next to you.

· Where our teenagers are at, where our families are at.

· And how are we gonna walk alongside them in this mess?

· How are we gonna be alongside them in this?

· Guys, I work with teenagers every single day

· and right now these questions that they are asking

· is that this isn't the life I want.

· They're asking these questions.

· How does God fit in my life?

· Man, how did my home get so broken right now?

· What happened right now?

· Translation, our children are being affected

· by our choices.

· As culture, we have turned away from God

· and what God has designed the family to be.

· We have compromised our homes

· and we have turned what God already called beautiful.

· We've turned away from that.

· And guys, don't hear me say this,

· like if you have one of these homes right now,

· if your home is broken, you've been through a divorce,

· you have a blended family right now,

· if you are raising your kid as a single parent,

· hear me say this, you have not failed.

· That is why we have the cross.

· That is why we have Jesus Christ

· because you can turn back to him

· and you can get on the right path.

· But church, hear me say this.

· We do need to get on the right path.

· We do need to turn the tide here in America

· and we do need to do it for the sake of Gen Alpha

· and Gen Z right now.

· So let me ask you a couple of questions this morning.

· Would you stay faithful to your faith

· if everyone turned on you?

· Would you stay faithful to your faith

· if your family turned on you?

· Would you stay faithful to your faith

· if everyone you loved, everyone around you turned on you?

· See, this morning we're gonna learn about Job,

· that what if wasn't a what if, it was his exact reality.

· Chapters 15 through 21 is where we're gonna spend

· this time right now.

· And for the last five weeks,

· we've been answering this big question

· is not why things happen, but who is already there?

· Who is already there?

· And Job's life fell apart.

· The first conversation we saw Eliphaz,

· he told him, you must have done something wrong, Job.

· The second conversation he had with Bildad

· is that, man, he said that nobody's there

· to speak for you.

· Then the third one, Zophar, we learned about last week

· is that just say you're sorry Job

· and everything will be okay.

· That was the friend approach.

· And now we're gonna get around two of their conversations.

· Same three people, same as sheep right here, right now.

· But their words get harsher with Job.

· They get more direct with Job.

· They turn to him and they attack his faith.

· We're gonna watch three conversations

· and I think exactly exposes the numbers

· I shared with you today.

· It exposes what's going on in the American home today

· because the hardest turns don't happen out there.

· The hardest turns happen in our four walls,

· right here in this house,

· right here with us, our closest people.

· So here's my big question tonight that I wanna answer

· or today I wanna answer.

· When your people turn on you,

· will you let them turn you?

· When your people turn on you, will you let them turn you?

· Let's read verses 11 and 17.

· Eliphaz, he kicks it off and he says in 11,

· are God's consolations not enough for you?

· Even the words that deal gently with you, he says.

· Then you skip down to verse 17 and he says this,

· listen to me and I will inform you.

· I will describe what I have seen.

· See, the first point I want you to see is this,

· is that some people, man, they're gonna turn you

· from God's word and they're gonna turn you to their word.

· Look at those first two verses

· that Eliphaz speaks right here.

· He says, man, isn't God's comfort enough for you?

· Job, isn't God's words enough for you?

· But listen to what's underneath Eliphaz's words,

· God's comfort, he means his own speech.

· He is calling his own words God's words.

· See, the Hebrew word right here is listen.

· The Hebrew word is Shema.

· It's the word in Deuteronomy 6-4, it says listen Israel.

· The Lord our God, the Lord is one

· and it's the word God uses,

· call his people to hear him.

· Eliphaz says this about himself, Shema, listen to me.

· So here's the big thing right here.

· He even brings back up right here

· in verses 18 and 19, he says, man,

· listen to these wise men of our time, Job.

· He reflects on these wise men

· that are in their land right now

· that these wisdom thinkers have been passed down

· to their fathers, to their children, ancient wisdom,

· they're above debate.

· And in verse 19, he says this,

· the land belonged to them.

· No stranger passed through the land

· without going through them.

· They know everything that is going on in their land.

· So here's the translation of what Eliphaz is saying.

· Job, we're the insiders, you're the stranger.

· He puts them right on the outside.

· And guys, we have wise men all the time around us.

· We have wise men right now today.

· They just come in the form of a podcast, a ring light.

· They string these phrases together

· that you've constantly heard through a reel,

· a 60 second reel, maybe a phrase like this,

· follow your hearts, protect your peace.

· I love this one.

· Students and young generation are all about this one.

· I'm gonna live my truth, right?

· We hear that all the time in our culture today.

· These messages that have been stringed together,

· stitched together, they've been around so long

· that now we have taken them as truth.

· See, the algorithm has become people's pastor

· more than the church.

· The algorithm has become the people's pastor.

· And that pastor preaches to you

· when you wake up in the morning

· and before you go to bed at night.

· That's the first thing we check.

· That's the first thing that we look at.

· That's the last thing we look at when we go to bed.

· We all have our phones connected to us.

· But here's what the algorithm does.

· The algorithm never once tells you to deny yourself

· and pick up your cross.

· So let me ask you a couple of things right here.

· Do you think God's comfort is not good enough for you?

· Do you think God's counsel is not good enough for you?

· Do you think man's word is better than God's word?

· Do you listen to your podcast?

· Do you listen to your news?

· Do you listen to their information

· more than what God's word says?

· Do you have that self-help book

· that's on your nightstand instead of the Bible?

· I feel like we should sing the Dusty Bible song

· by Josiah Queen right now, right?

· But look at what Job does right here.

· Job doesn't make that trade.

· Chapter 16-2, he says this.

· You are all miserable comforters.

· That's how he starts out with that.

· Pretty intense, right?

· He even gets the, you know, better, right?

· He even lays out his facts of what he is feeling.

· Look at that 15 through 17,

· what he says to his friends.

· I have sewn sackcloth over my skin.

· I have buried my strength in the dust.

· My face, my face has grown red with weeping,

· although my hands are free from violence

· and my prayer is pure.

· I love these verses.

· They're honest, they're real.

· It's exactly what's going on with Job.

· You read in 17-6, Job describes that

· when people look at him, they spit on him.

· He's disgusting to look at.

· And still through all of this,

· Job chooses not to give into Eliphaz's words.

· Still through all this, Job chooses God's word.

· He chooses his word that's gonna feed him

· every single day.

· Guys, your phone will feed you every single day,

· but it will still leave you starving.

· The algorithm tells you exactly what you want.

· Jesus tells you exactly what you need to hear.

· And most of us won't have a cost

· of somebody spitting in our face.

· Most of us won't have a cost

· of what Job writes for you right here

· that people won't spit on us,

· but our price is gonna be comfort.

· Our price is gonna be,

· oh man, I'm not included with that group.

· I'm not included with that social media tag.

· Or hey, I'm a stranger to them.

· I'm the outcast, I'm the black sheep.

· That's gonna be our price.

· See, a lot of Christians don't understand this

· about leaving a false faith.

· Most of you in this room know

· that I came from a Mormon background.

· I was born and raised Mormon.

· I was atheist living in this Mormon house.

· And I actually went on my mission

· for two and a half years in Chile

· and I absolutely loved it.

· It was great.

· I found Jesus, the real Jesus

· that's preached about in this Bible.

· I put the Book of Mormon in the Bible side by side

· and I decided, hey, I'm gonna find out who Jesus was.

· And I came to my faith.

· I came to Christ through his word.

· But I had to come to a reality when I got home.

· I said, okay, I'm ready to leave the Mormon faith

· and I got to make Christianity my lifestyle.

· I got to make Christianity my way of life.

· And so when I declared that to my family,

· I was kicked out.

· When I declared that to the church,

· I was brought before a council of men

· that I was born and raised with.

· They knew me from every sense.

· I was a little guy.

· And they put me in front of a council

· and I had to defend my faith to them.

· See, most of us Christians,

· we can cuss out Pastor Andrew

· and we're still invited the next weekend, right?

· But in the Mormon faith,

· if you go up against their word,

· if you go up against the Bible and their Bible

· and you show them who the real Jesus is,

· they say, get out of the church.

· You're no longer a part of it.

· They excommunicate you.

· So my cost was giving up my community

· that I knew ever since I was a little boy.

· My cost was defending my faith

· in front of my family

· and constantly going through the heap

· and being disregarded

· and then eventually cast out

· where I'm no longer a welcome in that church.

· See guys, Eliphaz went for Job's heart,

· but Bildad, man, he goes even deeper.

· He goes about his name.

· Look at these verses in 18 through 17.

· 18 through 17.

· I'm just gonna read 17 right here.

· It says, all memory of him perishes from the earth.

· He has no name anywhere.

· And look at verse 21.

· He delivers this killer blow to him.

· Indeed, such is the dwelling of the unjust man.

· And this is the place of the one who does not know God.

· See, Bildad reveals something to us

· is that some people will turn you away from his name

· and turn us to their name.

· See, this is interesting.

· When you look at this,

· you guys gotta understand Job's world right here.

· Most people in Job's world believe you live after death

· through your kids, through your grandkids.

· Being remembered through your kids

· and your grandkids was better,

· was how they needed to live life.

· To be forgotten was worse than dying.

· Having your children around you

· and have them live on your name

· was more important to them.

· But these two verses,

· right before Bildad gets into this,

· he says a wicked man has no children, no descendants.

· And he says it to a man

· that just buried 10 of his kids.

· Guys, we do the same thing.

· We measure our name by our house.

· We measure our name by our career.

· We measure our name about how well our kids are doing.

· Man, are their grades good?

· Is travel ball good?

· Man, are they having a scholarship?

· Are they getting married well?

· Man, if our kids look good,

· then we must be doing something right.

· Then we must be doing something great.

· So let me ask you a couple questions.

· Are you scared?

· Are you scared that your name won't be remembered?

· Are you more concerned

· with where you dwell on this side of heaven?

· Is your house and where you live more valuable

· than who is speaking in your home?

· Is your family, the family vacations that you go on

· more important than where you spend your time

· at the dinner table or in a back porch

· or even on the couch with your kids?

· And here's the big one.

· What if your kids end up leaving

· and they turn against you?

· What if your kids end up walking away from their faith?

· See, look at these verses right here,

· in 13 through 19.

· Chapter 19, 13 through 19.

· It says this.

· This is Job speaking.

· He has removed,

· he has removed my brothers from me.

· My acquaintances have abandoned me.

· My relatives stopped coming by

· and my close friends have forgotten me.

· My house guests and female servants

· regard me as a stranger.

· I am a foreigner in their sight.

· I call for my servant, but he does not answer.

· Even if I beg him with my own mouth,

· my breath is offensive to my wife

· and my own family finds me repulsive.

· Even young boys scorn at me.

· When I stand up, they mock me.

· All of my best friends despise me

· and those I love have turned against me.

· Everything in Job's life is falling apart.

· His brothers left him, his relatives left him,

· his closest friends left him.

· Verse 17 says that his wife

· can't even stand to be near him.

· Job loved his wife.

· Remember chapter two?

· Chapter two, it says that man, his wife was near him,

· but when things got rough, she said,

· hey, curse God and die, Job.

· You ever been in a marriage argument?

· I hope that never comes out of your wife's mouth, okay?

· But to be fair to her, she buried the same 10 kids.

· She's broken too.

· She's struggling in this moment too.

· Job poured everything he had into his whole world,

· everything he had into his wife

· and she still ended up leaving him, turning away from him.

· Bill Dad never says this part out loud.

· The home you put your security in, Job,

· it turned on you.

· The kids you put everything into, they walked away.

· It walked away from you.

· The spouse that you built everything around,

· she ended up leaving you too.

· That's why all throughout scripture,

· God keeps reminding us and he keeps asking

· this one question, will you choose me first?

· All throughout scripture, Jesus says this

· and I love how Jesus puts it the best.

· In 1037, he says this and Jesus says,

· the one who loves a father or mother more than me

· is not worthy of me.

· The one who loves a son or daughter more than me

· is not worthy of me.

· Husbands, wives, future husbands and wives, parents,

· hear me say this, God commands you to love

· every single person in your life.

· But God says, do not put your ultimate hope in them

· that will eventually fail you.

· Put your ultimate hope in God that will never fail you.

· Guys, this world is broken

· because people kept putting their faith in the wrong thing.

· People are putting their faith in the wrong places.

· The numbers I read to you this morning are real.

· This is our reality we are living in.

· And loving God doesn't mean everything

· gets cleaned up in your life.

· Loving God doesn't mean everything falls into place.

· Job loved God, Job loved him

· and everything fell apart in his life.

· But he does promise if you do love me

· when things do fall apart, you won't fall apart with it.

· So we need to get real this morning

· and that's exactly what Job does.

· Look at verse 21, he says, have mercy on me friends.

· Have mercy on me my friends.

· He is asking for mercy from the very closest people to him

· and they won't give it to him.

· So he stays glued to the name that has mercy.

· He stayed glued to the name

· that speaks mercy in his life.

· I'm reminded about a story

· when I was going through my hard time.

· I'm ex-communicated from the church.

· I got no family around me.

· I was homeless for a little bit.

· I started getting my feet underneath me.

· I started dating my beautiful wife.

· She was my girlfriend at the time.

· Now we're married.

· We have four kids, it's an amazing thing.

· But during this time as I was dating her,

· I hit up my boy that I grew up with in high school

· and this is Josh and his beautiful wife

· here on the screen.

· And I hit up Josh and I was like,

· Josh, I need to talk to you.

· So we went out to dinner

· and after dinner, I started to explain to Josh.

· I was like, Josh, I don't know

· if I can keep doing this, man.

· I don't know if I can keep doing this thing called God.

· I don't know if he cares about me.

· I don't know if he loves me.

· I don't even know if he's real anymore.

· And Josh looked at me and he said, Kyle, don't give up.

· Kyle, God does love you.

· He does care about you.

· Keep fighting the good fight.

· See, Josh didn't make a name for himself in that moment.

· He pointed to me a name that is above all names,

· the name of mercy that he pointed me to.

· He spoke life and truth into me there.

· See, Eliphaz attacked his word,

· Bildad went to his name,

· but Zophar, he goes even way deeper than that.

· Zophar attacks his heart.

· Look at these verses in 24 through five.

· It says this,

· don't you know, Job,

· whatever sense antiquity from the time

· a human was placed on earth,

· the joy of the wicked has been brief

· and the happiness of the godless has lasted only a moment.

· And then look at the final verse

· that he says right here to Job.

· He says this in 29,

· this is the wicked person's lot from God,

· the inheritance God ordained for him.

· See, the third point is this,

· is that some people are gonna turn you away

· from God's heart

· and they're gonna turn you to their hearts.

· Look at these verses again.

· He's basically saying this, Job, your heart loves evil.

· Job, you are going to inherit death.

· Says this to his face.

· Andrew literally said that to me last week.

· He's like, do you even believe God?

· What do you believe?

· And then I replied, can you even grow a real mustache?

· When you guys read this,

· God revealed this to me last night

· as I was rehearsing.

· There's in chapter 20, verse 20,

· chapter 20, verse 20,

· when 2020 hit,

· I think this identifies exactly what happened to our world

· because his adipatite is never satisfied.

· What do you hunger for in your heart?

· What are you trying to inherit in your heart?

· When I read that, man, I looked at our world

· and I looked at like, what's going on in our lives?

· What's going on in my life?

· Man, for a long time, we've been chasing thrills.

· We've been chasing cheap thrills,

· all that our world offers.

· We have this hungry appetite

· of constantly chasing these fleshly desires in us.

· And we see this all the time through our reels.

· We see this all the time through their wisdom

· that they give us.

· Galatians 5, 19 through 21 actually warns us about this.

· If we continue to chase after our desires in our life,

· we will not inherit the kingdom of God.

· Colossians 3, 8 through 10, it says this.

· It goes through a deeper labor.

· Put off all those old self and put on a new self

· that is being renewed day by day

· to the image of your creator.

· See, Zophar's not wrong about the sin.

· He's wrong about Job.

· That was never Job's heart.

· That was never what Job was pointing to.

· Go back to 19 real quick.

· This is what Job says before Zophar even gets here.

· He says this 25 through 27,

· but I know that my Redeemer lives.

· And at the end, he will stand on the dust.

· Even after my skin has been destroyed,

· yet I will see God in my flesh.

· I will see Him myself.

· My eyes will look at Him and not as a stranger.

· My heart longs within me.

· That's Job's heart.

· And so Job, go back to 21.

· Look what he says to Zophar.

· He says this 23 through 26.

· He says this.

· One person dies in excellent health,

· completely secure and at ease.

· His body is well fed and his bones are full of marrow.

· Yet another person dies with a bitter soul

· having never tasted prosperity.

· But both lie in the dust and worms cover them.

· It doesn't matter if you're a good person

· or a bad person.

· We're all going to the same dust.

· Or Joey from Friends would say,

· we're all gonna be eaten by worm food, okay?

· Guys, we're all going to the same dust,

· but the difference is one will have a Redeemer

· above their dust, the other will not have a Redeemer.

· Who are you longing for?

· Who are you truly longing for in your life?

· What are you truly longing for in your life?

· Job says that your heart is gonna be revealed

· day after day in every part of your life.

· But Job shows us how to look at someone else.

· Job shows us how to turn our heart

· towards God in all situations.

· No matter who loves you, no matter who's around you,

· you always stay connected to Jesus.

· And Jesus warned us.

· Jesus warned us that this life following him

· would not be easy.

· It is gonna be a struggle every single day of our life.

· So at this time,

· when I'm going through all my struggles,

· Josh speaks life into me.

· I'm still struggling with God.

· I'm still wrestling with things with God.

· This is probably the loneliest I've ever been in my life.

· So I'm from California,

· so I took off to my old surf spot in Santa Monica.

· And I love this spot.

· And this night was unique.

· For some reason, I was there in the middle of the night,

· got there like two or three a.m. in the morning.

· It's a full moon out there.

· I can see the waves crashing.

· I'm just overlooking this cliff.

· The blue light's just shining.

· And I'm yelling at God to the top of my lungs.

· I'm like, God, give me a break.

· Who's around?

· I'm like, you don't even love me.

· You need to show up right now.

· I'm just yelling to the top of my lungs.

· All the rich people are probably like,

· this crazy homeless kid is just like,

· yelling at the sides, you know?

· Like, just like, it's totally my job moment.

· And I remember after the anger sat,

· and then I just stop and everything's silence.

· This is how Jesus appears to me.

· Jesus gives me this verse.

· How you will be hated by everyone because of my name,

· but the one who endures to the end will be saved.

· Thanks, Jesus.

· That meant a lot.

· After this happened, God started to reveal Himself to me.

· God started to reveal about who my family needs to be.

· It was my church family.

· The church that I would do life with every single day.

· The church I would drop my kids off

· in kids ministry every single Sunday.

· My Bible group that I would just explain my heart

· and be vulnerable in a moment.

· God says, that's the family I need you to have, Kyle.

· And I love my church family in this room.

· I love how these people have blessed my wife.

· I love how these people have blessed all of my kids.

· Ms. Vicki that always in the cafe,

· she knows exactly what Cody wants every single Sunday.

· You want your usual?

· Yes, ma'am.

· Guys, that is the church.

· That is the church that I see

· in every single one of your lives.

· That God keeps revealing to me the same Christ

· that saved me a long time ago also saved you.

· And you are willing to make that unified in our church.

· Grace and mercy, the gospel of Jesus Christ unifies us.

· Guys, my heart is for that.

· My heart is that we have a church

· that is full of grace and mercy.

· That shows the heart of Jesus everywhere we look.

· Guys, families are a mess.

· It is no longer a future thing.

· Families are a mess and they have turned away

· from the beautiful things

· that God has already put in front of them.

· They have taken the bite.

· They have taken the bait of sin.

· They say, God's not enough.

· His counsel is not enough.

· God's name isn't enough.

· God's heart isn't for me.

· But I know a church that is willing to be the change.

· I know on the corner of 175th and Bell,

· we are being the welcoming door of all their brokenness.

· I don't wanna grow a church by already saved Christians.

· I wanna grow a church by broken people that became saved

· because we all pointed him to the healing one

· that is Jesus.

· That is how I wanna grow a church.

· That is my heart.

· Andrew revealed his heart in one of his sermons.

· I'm gonna reveal my heart.

· And I pray this all the time in all my ministries.

· I hope we have a heart of grace and truth.

· I hope we have a heart of grace and mercy

· that always points back to a redeemer

· that died on a cross for us.

· I hope that when people come through these doors,

· they see this man that was broken

· and he became the redeemer we all need in our life.

· He became the redeemer Job needed.

· He became the redeemer you need right now.

· Church, I got a couple more self-reflections for you.

· Which redeemer is standing above your problems,

· your struggles and your misery today?

· Which redeemer is standing above you?

· When all the dust settles,

· which redeemer is standing above the dust?

· Who is the name that is coming out of the dust?

· This is what it looks like this week.

· When their words can't feed you, turn to Jesus' words.

· When their name forgets you,

· when your name is forgotten, turn to His name.

· When their hearts turn on you, turn to His heart.

· Church, your enduring truth is this.

· When your people turn on you,

· turn to the one who stood above the dust.

· Some of you are lost in here tonight

· and some of you are lost in this moment

· and you've got a bunch of dust in your life

· that you needed taken off.

· There is a savior named Jesus Christ

· that will wash your dust away.

· Dust off.

· Today's your day.

· Today's your day to give your life to Christ.

· But you believers in the room

· and most of you are believers in this room,

· are you willing to be a welcoming door

· to all the dusty people coming in here?

· This last year before we went to camp,

· I told my leaders that I wanna leave the 99

· and I wanna go chase the one.

· I want us to be a ministry and student ministry

· that we gonna pray for dusty people

· to come in our ministry.

· We're gonna pray for messy people to come in our life.

· And I got really good at praying

· because God gave us a bunch of messy students

· in our ministry right now and it's been great.

· But church, I want that to be your heart.

· I want you to pray for messy people

· to come in your life.

· Don't hide in your bubble.

· Don't hide in your circles.

· Pray for dust to come in.

· Because Jesus was the greatest person

· to get down on his knees and to wash our feet.

· Jesus was the greatest redeemer that we all need.

· And we need to embrace the dust

· that walks through those doors.

· And then we need to pray for them to come in here

· and to know who is going to heal them in the end.

· Be that welcoming door to all those dusty people

· in your life.

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