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Just Say You’re Sorry

Job 11–14 · Week 5

If its roots grow old in the ground and its stump starts to die in the soil,the scent of watermakes it thrive and produce twigs like a sapling.

Job 14:8–9

The Big
Question

When people are hurting, do we
come off like a jerk or a friend?

Start where we are.

Job has lost his children, his wealth, and his health. Now his third friend, Zophar, shows up with a megaphone message: just say you're sorry, and God will make it all go away.

Job pushes back, and in doing so shows what his friends should have been. This week we see two ways Christians come off to hurting people, and the hope Job reached for in the dark.

Move how the text moves.

  1. Job 11:1–20

    Like a Jerk

    Zophar is sure about Job's sin, calling him a talker and claiming God has overlooked some of his guilt. He is smug about God, praising His mystery while acting like he knows God's playbook. And his grace is stingy: clean yourself up first, then God will come.

  2. Job 12:4–13:15

    Like a Friend

    Job says it is easy to preach at someone from a place of ease. A friend sees what was lost before explaining why. Job calls his friends worthless healers who defend God with lies, then takes his case straight to God, holding on with both hands.

  3. Job 14:1–14

    Stay Until Hope Shows

    Job grieves how short and troubled life is, then notices a stump that sprouts again at just the scent of water. He asks the biggest question in the book: when a person dies, will he come back to life? Chapter 14 ends in the dark, and a friend stays.

Enduring Truth

A jerk says you are going to Hell, a friend saysyou can go to Heaven.

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Just Say You’re Sorry

Group Discussion & Response

Job 11–14

Talk talk it over.

  1. Have you ever been on the receiving end of a Zophar? What did their words do to you, and what did you actually need from them?

  2. Zophar was right that God is beyond our understanding, yet he still claimed to know why Job suffered. Where are you tempted to use true things about God in a smug way?

  3. Read Job 13:7–8. Why do we feel the need to defend God from someone's pain? What would walking them to Him look like instead?

  4. Read 1 Corinthians 15:20–23. How does Jesus as the firstfruits answer Job's question in 14:14, and how should that change the way we talk to hurting people?

Do live it out.

  1. Pray

    Ask God to show you someone you have been sure, smug, or stingy toward. Confess it, and ask Him for eyes to see what they have lost.

  2. Praise

    Thank God that He came first. While we were still sinners, Christ died for us, and grace was never a reward for cleaning ourselves up.

  3. Preach

    Remind yourself and others that Jesus is the firstfruits. Because He rose, Job's question has an answer: in Christ all will be made alive.

  4. Practice

    Be the scent of water for one hurting person this week. Send a text, bring a meal, or pull up a chair, and stay until hope shows up.

Close in Prayer

Father, forgive us for the times we have been sure about someone else's sin, smug about You, and stingy with grace. Thank You that You came first, and that Jesus prayed for the very people who condemned Him. Give us eyes to see what others have lost, courage to send them to You, and patience to stay until hope shows. Make us friends who point to the open door. In Jesus' name, amen.

Notes & Reflection